Welp, it’s official, as of today I am in a long distance relationship. We went from living together for two years, to living half-way across the country from each other— how the heck did this even happen?
A few months ago, Morgan got an incredible job offer. It was an opportunity we had both been praying for, but once it came through I was secretly disappointed. Said job is located in Austin, Texas. We weighed our options, and I cried (like, a lot), but ultimately decided that he needed to go and that I would stay behind in California. It seems like a no-brainer, right? My job is flexible, so why wouldn’t I just make the move with him?
Financially, emotionally and professionally— I’m not ready.
I moved home to my parents’ to get out of credit card debt that I accumulated in my early twenties, and to get back on my feet. Although I’ve made heaps of improvement on my finances, I’m still not where I want to be. Whether I like it or not, I’m staying put until I am debt-free, with a substantial savings account.
Unfortunately, moving home took a toll on our relationship. We struggled for the better half of this year trying to find our new groove, and while we’re finally back on track and in a good place, the timing is off. I am just not mentally prepared to make a cross-country move, leaving all of my friends and family behind, without a more formal commitment (an engagement).
Of course, I can blog from anywhere. I say I’m not ready to move professionally because all of my connections are in California— not only for my blog, but for my career, too. I love my 9-5 job, and abandoning that for something new is just not something I’m willing to do right now.
So, here we are, 1,700 miles apart.
We’re hoping this is temporary, and I have faith that we can make this work, but like any change, it’s scary. Neither of us have done a long distance relationship before, so all of the emotions and obstacles that come with it are unknown territory. I suppose what they say is true— only time will tell.
I am thankful for a job where I am able to work from home, so I can fly out to Austin for weeks at a time, but I know that we have a long, difficult road ahead of us.
Any other LDR couples out there? DM me, leave a comment or shoot me an email— I want to hear your stories, tips and advice.